12 Comments

  1. Arnie Smith
    February 27, 2019 @ 12:17 pm

    Great post. It really hit home.

    Keep up the nice work.

    Looking forward to reading more!

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  2. A Johns
    March 4, 2019 @ 2:11 pm

    Great article. Love the way you describe the Must-Have Pyramid concept. I never went through that process in my own relationship, and it hurt.

    Its clear that once you setup your bottom lines, it gives a great reference point to reevaluate the suitability between you and your partner.

    Thank you!

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    • Dovid Feldman
      March 4, 2019 @ 2:20 pm

      Thank you Teresa! It took me many years to formulate my own values, so don’t beat yourself up over it.

      Glad you found it helpful.

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  3. Sally Ferguson
    March 5, 2019 @ 8:11 pm

    I’ve been disappointed so often, it’s hard to recall!

    I appreciate your tips — I do need to learn to let go.

    It has been a struggle – year by year.

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  4. Mimi Rosen
    March 7, 2019 @ 8:42 pm

    The hardest part is to have empathy for myself. I immediately go to “It’s all my fault”, and launch from there.

    Thank you for pointing out the obvious – I need to accept my own feelings first.

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  5. Nate Behm
    March 9, 2019 @ 2:19 am

    My X was the best at this – she always knew how to focus on herself when we fought.

    At some point, though, she decided to take the trash out.

    Problem was, I was in the can!

    Thanks for the insights.

    Reply

  6. Nellie Waterhouse
    March 18, 2019 @ 2:30 am

    Hi my name is Nellie. I wish I had this information when dealing with my boyfriend.

    Instead, I took everything so defensively and hurtful.

    Good information for my next relationship!

    Thank you.

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  7. leadership effectiveness
    March 20, 2019 @ 11:24 am

    Leading by example is the most powerful way to handle problems in your relationship.

    Be the change you want to see.

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  8. istanbul citizen
    March 23, 2019 @ 10:41 am

    I wish I had taken to heart the complaints of my ex. She was a wonderful woman, but I just didn’t know how to respond.

    Great thoughts here.

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  9. Harley
    October 16, 2019 @ 8:02 pm

    Turning around our disappointments is key!

    Reply

  10. casio
    November 1, 2019 @ 9:39 am

    Hi Dovid –

    I’ve been bitten in my relationships so often, I just don’t know if I can do it anymore 🙁

    It’s so hard to trust when I carry around such fear.

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    • Dovid Feldman
      November 3, 2019 @ 8:33 am

      Casio-

      I hear you.

      Would you want to setup a clarity call to discuss?

      dovidfeldman.com/working-together/

      Reply

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