10 Comments

  1. Joe Klien
    August 30, 2019 @ 11:09 pm

    I love this take.

    I’ve always felt powerless in this desire conundrum, but the idea of “Who cares?! Desire is in the eye of the beholder” is so much healthier.

    Thank you for making this real for me.

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  2. Elsie MacCarthy
    September 27, 2019 @ 10:34 am

    I’ve always been concerned about my husband’s desire for me. Not sure why you are suggesting I shouldn’t care?

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    • Dovid Feldman
      October 2, 2019 @ 6:11 pm

      Hi Elsie,

      I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t care, but rather should “focus” on it.

      Let your focus be on building your desire for him. This will cause his desire to increase for you!

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  3. Crazy Horse
    September 30, 2019 @ 8:54 am

    When my wife started taking our relationship for granted, it really hit me hard.

    I appreciate your insight into working on my own desire, instead of blaming her for lack.

    Thank you!

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  4. Dovid Feldman
    October 2, 2019 @ 6:01 pm

    Crazy, you are welcome!

    It makes so much more sense to take control of your own situation.

    Gd Bless

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  5. James Robert
    December 23, 2019 @ 7:19 pm

    I’m hoping that she DOES desire me.

    But I understand what you are saying here, that I need to work on my own!

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  6. Susan Smith
    December 26, 2019 @ 2:06 am

    But what if it is only me who desires him, and not the other way around?

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  7. Google User
    February 14, 2020 @ 1:23 pm

    Desire is both emotional and physical. Love your take!

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  8. Andrew Beck
    March 25, 2020 @ 1:37 am

    I’ve always been so confused regarding this message. I have needs, and it’s hard for me to give those up.

    Any thoughts?

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    • Dovid Feldman
      March 25, 2020 @ 7:37 am

      The approach of working on our own desire doesn’t negate your needs. Instead, it puts each person in charge of their own intimate life.

      If you are not fulfilled in your sex-life, a conversation with your partner is a great starting point (kindly!).

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