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  1. Bill Kattehuler
    February 17, 2020 @ 6:46 am

    Survivor from my last relationship. Will not allow that to go on any longer!

    Excellent post


  2. David
    April 28, 2020 @ 10:35 am

    I’m wondering how to do Step 3 within a marriage. When living with someone, it seems impossible to “not engage at all,” especially when we are quarantined due to coronavirus. I suppose I could move out, but then I would not see my kids.


    • Dovid Feldman
      April 30, 2020 @ 6:39 am

      Hi David – you do step 3 the same way she does – just disengage. Again, it is not your choice to lower the relationship to this level. Nor are you upset. You just stop trying to get her to “come-around” and you stop telling yourself that this is your fault.

      Find other activities and things to do. Have fun with your kids! Start a new hobby. Don’t allow her choice of being silent cause you distress.

      No moving out at all (unless there is abuse).

      Gd Bless


      • Anonymous
        June 11, 2020 @ 9:23 am

        This is an interesting approach. Would like to hear how it has worked for others. Do you have a similar article on how to deal with other passive aggressive behavior?


  3. Shamis
    July 2, 2020 @ 3:50 pm

    My ex used to love giving me the silent treatment. Until I did it back! That changed things, for sure!


  4. Sadye Casper
    July 24, 2020 @ 8:48 pm

    Stonewalling is the WORST!

    Thanks for this!


  5. Heather Hart
    July 31, 2020 @ 5:35 am

    This is an excellent suggestion – taking back your own power is key.

    Thanks for the great advice.


  6. Keeley R
    August 1, 2020 @ 9:38 pm

    Stonewalling is TORTURE!

    I should have gotten out of the relationship a LONG time ago!


  7. Velva Bolin
    August 4, 2020 @ 4:43 pm

    Such a creative idea to turn stonewalling around.

    They deserve it, 100%


  8. Lloyd Malcolm
    August 29, 2020 @ 8:27 pm

    If I could only get her to stop giving me the silent treatment. It really is torture.


  9. Samara Roda
    September 11, 2020 @ 7:55 am

    I think this is a little out of touch-you ought to explain better?


    • Dovid Feldman
      September 13, 2020 @ 10:23 am

      Mind being a bit more detailed in what is confusing, Samara?

      Thank you!


  10. Chen Schzen
    September 13, 2020 @ 9:54 am

    Love to read your posts every day! Thank you for another thought-provoking article.


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