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  1. Bill Kattehuler
    February 17, 2020 @ 6:46 am

    Survivor from my last relationship. Will not allow that to go on any longer!

    Excellent post

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  2. David
    April 28, 2020 @ 10:35 am

    I’m wondering how to do Step 3 within a marriage. When living with someone, it seems impossible to “not engage at all,” especially when we are quarantined due to coronavirus. I suppose I could move out, but then I would not see my kids.

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    • Dovid Feldman
      April 30, 2020 @ 6:39 am

      Hi David – you do step 3 the same way she does – just disengage. Again, it is not your choice to lower the relationship to this level. Nor are you upset. You just stop trying to get her to “come-around” and you stop telling yourself that this is your fault.

      Find other activities and things to do. Have fun with your kids! Start a new hobby. Don’t allow her choice of being silent cause you distress.

      No moving out at all (unless there is abuse).

      Gd Bless

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